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“If there is a drop in cabin pressure, panels above your seat will open, revealing oxygen masks. If this happens, pull a mask toward you until the tube is fully extended, place the mask over your nose and mouth, slip the elastic strap over your head, and adjust the mask if necessary. Breathe normally and note that oxygen is flowing, even if the bag doesn’t inflate. Secure your mask before helping others.”
Air travel has never been fun for me. I tolerate it because I view it as a necessary evil. I want to get to my destination, and to do so I must deal with the hassle of air travel. I do not like airplanes. I do not understand them. The mechanics of aerodynamics make no sense to me. I am putting my life in the hands of some pilot I have never met. The seats are small and uncomfortable. I have zero control over the plane or its occupants. Making one’s way to the restroom requires an act of Congress.
Obviously, flying creates great stress for me. The only way I can get through it with my sanity in check is by adequately preparing, practicing a little self-soothing, and by keeping my eye on the prize, knowing the destination will be more than worth the journey.
Divorce is not unlike the anxiety-inducing experience that is airline travel. People going through a divorce put their lives in the hands of attorneys, therapists, financial planners, and other experts to help them navigate the process. The process itself is complicated and fraught with questions and very few clear answers. People working their way through the process of divorce many times feel helpless and out of control. And unfortunately for many, the destination can seem just as bleak, if not more so, than the journey.
If you are currently moving through a divorce, there are two things I want you to know: (1) you have the power to make the destination worth the journey, even if you did not ask to go on this trip; and (2) if you put your oxygen mask on first, so to speak, you will have the ability to help yourself and your children safely land at your destination, through healthy and effective decision making along the way.
Much like my own process to carry me through dreaded air travel, here are three ways in which you can “put your oxygen mask on first.”
Remember that the passage of time is a great healer, and if you secure your oxygen mask first – act with preparation, take care of yourself and focus on being positive – you and your family will weather any turbulence you encounter along the way.
Lynn Wilson McNally is a partner in the firm and member of the firm’s Family Law practice group. She is a Board Certified Family Law Specialist and certified Family Financial Settlement Mediator by the North Carolina Dispute Resolution Commission. She represents individuals in matters regarding separation, divorce, child custody, child support, alimony, equitable distribution, domestic violence, termination of parental rights, legitimation and other matters pertaining to family law....LEARN MORE